On the Value of Appreciation
On the Value of Appreciation
It's easy to mistake the meaning of the word appreciate by assuming it means “to like”.
However, it has a much more active meaning. In fact, the root word “per” means to sell or pass through. Not “to buy”, not “to keep”, and not just simply “to like”, but an act of passing along and moving something towards a new owner.
Appreciation is very different from gratitude. Gratitude is a state of being grateful. Gratitude implies that you have received what you wanted and you are in a state of being thankful for it. Whereas appreciation is an action, a movement from, towards, and then passing along through.
The action of appreciation requires the process of placing a value on something in order to pass it along. Value sets the price and creates the draw that pulls it through. All exchange is based on the flow of values.
If value determines the pull or draw, how do we determine value?
There is a universal law that states: that which is like unto itself is drawn.
Therefore, we may determine value by comparing that which is like unto what we have, and setting a similar price. Just as the process of appraising is the act of comparing the praise (price) others give for similar things. And admittedly, we often "like" and are drawn to our friends because they are like or similar to ourselves.
Value can also be determined by looking at the source from which it came. If we know the source’s value, then it is easy to state a price based on that value. For instance, a winning lottery ticket has a value that we call a “prize” not price, because its value (prize) is determined by the source (pool of hopeful winners’ cash) from which it came.
So, if appreciation is an act of setting a price or value, what action are we taking when we appreciate another person?
When we express appreciation for another person we give them value, or praise with our words. We may determine the value by seeing something in them that we like in ourselves. Or we may see the source from which they came and praise them knowing that value. For instance, one may receive appreciation and praise for their Harvard PhD. or because they are part of the same fraternity. Or likewise, "Namaste" is a Sanskrit greeting showing appreciation for the divine spark within the other person. Truly appreciating the source from which they come!!!
When someone expresses their appreciation to us, if we accept it, we buy into the value they give us. When we easily accept another’s appreciation, it is because we “already- kept” that value for ourselves and acknowledge it.
Therefore, it seems quite likely that as we value ourselves, and acknowledge the source from which we come, then through that act of self-appreciation like unto itself will be drawn.
Certainly, a valuable and likable exchange!!!